Are men and women equal? Was gender hierarchy built into Creation?
In Brief
Statut I: Statut Globale
Les hommes et les femmes sont-ils vraiment “créés égaux”?
Dans le Talmud, le Rav Yirmiya enseigne que le premier être humain a été créé en tant que mâle et femelle conjoints. Lors de la séparation, la femme est appelée “l’aide qui lui correspond”, “ezer ke-negdo” (Bereishit 2:18).
Que signifie “ezer ke-negdo”?
- Certains commentateurs médiévaux affirment que le dessein de Dieu pour la création inclut une hiérarchie entre les sexes. Plusieurs considèrent même les femmes comme inférieures aux hommes.
- D’autres rabbins offrent des perspectives différentes: par exemple, le Rav S. R. Hirsch et Rav Yosef Soloveitchik qui décrivent les femmes et les hommes comme des partenaires de vie, avec des rôles plus complémentaires que hiérarchiques.
Quel pourrait être l’objectif de la hiérarchie?
Une histoire talmudique pose la question suivante : “Deux rois peuvent-ils partager une seule couronne ?” Le Zohar applique l’histoire au statut de la femme dans son mariage, suggérant que les hommes et les femmes ne pourraient pas partager le même statut et s’attendre à ce que le mariage, ou peut-être même la société, fonctionne.
S’il existe une hiérarchie, est-elle éternelle?
Arizal enseigne que les aspects “féminins” du monde ont autrefois été réduits, mais que cela changera à mesure que nous approcherons de la rédemption.
Quelle est la place des différences halachiques dans cette discussion?
Le Rav Moshe Feinstein écrit que notre humanité commune et notre égalité en terme de sainteté surpassent en importance les différences halakhiques exprimées entre les femmes et les hommes en tant que Juifs.
Quel est l’impact de ces idées sur la Halacha?
Pour en savoir plus, lisez la section Statut II: Statut halachique.
Traduit par Tali Fitoussi
Are men and women truly “created equal?”
In the Talmud, Rav Yirmiya teaches that the first human being was created as a conjoined male and female. Upon separation, woman is called the man’s “helpmate corresponding to him,” “ezer ke-negdo” (Bereishit 2:18).
What does “ezer ke-negdo” mean?
- Some medieval commentators say God’s design for creation includes gender hierarchy. Several even view women as inferior to men.
- Others offer different perspectives. For instance, Rav S. R. Hirsch and Rav Yosef Soloveitchik describe women and men as life partners, with roles more complementary than hierarchical.
What could be the purpose of hierarchy?
A talmudic story asks “Can two kings share a single crown?” The Zohar applies the story to the status of a woman in her marriage, suggesting that men and women could not share the same status and expect marriage, or perhaps even society, to function.
If there is hierarchy, is it eternal?
Arizal teaches that the ‘feminine’ aspects of the world were once diminished, but this will change as we approach redemption.
Where do halachic differences fit in to this discussion?
Rav Moshe Feinstein writes that halachic differences between women and men come second to our shared humanity and our equal sanctity as Jews.
How do these ideas impact Halacha?
To find out, read on to Status II: Halachic Status.
In Depth
Rav Ezra Bick, Ilana Elzufon, Shayna Goldberg, and Rav Da’vid Sperling, eds.
Deracheha focuses on halachic education. A few pieces, like this one, focus more on ideas. We hope you find them thoughtful—and thought provoking.
The next piece in this series kicks off our halachic discussion of this topic.
Creation
Are men and women truly “created equal?”
The story of women in Judaism and of gender roles in Halacha begins with Bereishit.
Bereishit describes the creation of the human being twice, once indicating gender parity and once highlighting difference. The first description, in Bereishit chapter 1, describes woman and man created together:
בראשית א:כז
וַיִּבְרָא אֱלֹהִים אֶת הָאָדָם בְּצַלְמוֹ בְּצֶלֶם אֱלֹהִים בָּרָא אֹתוֹ זָכָר וּנְקֵבָה בָּרָא אֹתָם:
Bereishit 1:27
And God created man in His image, in the image of God He created him, male and female He created them.
Here God creates all people, male and female, in the Divine image.
The second description, in Bereishit chapter 2, takes a different approach. It goes into greater detail, first describing the creation of man and then revealing the motivation for creating woman from him:
בראשית ב:יח
וַיֹּאמֶר יְקֹוָק אֱלֹקים לֹא טוֹב הֱיוֹת הָאָדָם לְבַדּוֹ אֶעֱשֶׂה לּוֹ עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֹ:
Bereishit 2:18
And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for man to be alone, I will make him a helpmate corresponding to him.’
Here the woman’s creation comes as an answer to man’s needs. While Bereishit 1:27 does not present a meaningful gender difference at creation, 2:18 suggests there is one.
In the Talmud, Rav Yirmiya resolves the seeming discrepancy between the verses: The initial creation in the first chapter was of a single hybrid-gender creature, which God later splits into man and woman.
ברכות סא.
דאמר ר’ ירמיה בן אלעזר דו פרצופין ברא הקב”ה באדם הראשון
Berachot 61a
R. Yirmiya son of Elazar said: The Holy One, Blessed Be He, created two faces on the first man [Adam].
Rav Yirmiya maintains that the creation of the human being is of a conjoined male and female, with “two faces,” only later separated into two distinct beings.
What need was there for the split? So that the woman could be the man’s “helpmate corresponding to him,” “ezer kenegdo.”
What does “ezer ke-negdo” mean?
While many classic commentaries assume the female “helpmate” is subservient to the male, Rav Yitzchak Arama of fifteenth-century Spain teaches that the words “corresponding to him” actually point in the direction of parity.
עקידת יצחק בראשית שער ח
שתהיה לו חברה נאותה ומשותפת לו כפי צרכו ולזה אעשה לו העזר הראוי והנאות לו שהוא עזר כנגדו כלומר כנגד צורכו ושוה לו
Akeidat Yitzchak, Bereishit 8 (1:27)
That she [woman] will be for him [man] a suitable companion and partner, in accordance with his needs. For this purpose, I [God] will make him [man] the helpmate that is fitting and suitable for him, which is a “helpmate corresponding to him.” That is to say, corresponding to his needs and equal to him.
Sometimes equal partners play similar roles, and sometimes distinct roles. Rav Arama speaks elsewhere both of a shared male-female pursuit of loving-kindness and of the uniqueness of mothering.1 Sometimes, as he writes here, one equal partner takes on a role that prioritizes the other.
How does the Torah envision the interplay of gender roles? Let’s look at a few approaches.
Hierarchy
Does God’s design for creation include gender hierarchy?
Many medieval commentators say that it does, and several of them even regard women as inferior to men.2
Is this necessarily the case? No. There is no one definitive reading of Creation, and there are limits to the authority of homiletic readings of these texts.
Has gender bias affected Halacha?
Torah law transcends human judgment and knowledge.
Since our sages’ teachings represent a received tradition of Torah She-be’al Peh, transmitted orally from generation to generation, the Torah’s credibility on these laws effectively becomes theirs.
Sometimes, however, interpretations of Jewish law offered by our sages may not seem to match up with the plain meaning of the Torah. At other times, sages have viewpoints that are in dispute. And sometimes these interpretations or disputed viewpoints take a perspective on gender that may not sit well with us.
Most people of the ancient and medieval worlds regarded women as men’s inferiors. Should we be concerned that gender bias has affected Halachic rulings from those times?
Rav Aharon Lichtenstein addresses the question of potential biases, conscious and unconscious, in his essay, “The Human and Social Factor in Halakha.”
Rav Aharon Lichtenstein, 'The Human and Social Factor in Halakha'
Certainly, they [our sages] had predilections and attitudes. However, our faith in them inspires us with confidence that the halakhic process was governed by halakhic factors, that halakhic decisions rested on halakhic grounds. We have neither the right nor the desire to suggest that their judgment was diverted or warped by extraneous factors….We follow in their footsteps not only out of deference to the formal and technical authority of the ultimate arbiter but because we recognize and are overawed by their greatness. … Hence, their attitudes, no mere intrusive graft but an organic outgrowth of the gavra rabba in them, can indeed provide the proper infrastructure for certain halakhot. Hazal’s factual perceptions are, relatively speaking, more historically conditioned. Their reading of human nature, in its permanent metaphysical aspect, retains its full force; but observations of given sociological tendencies may be more relative and of lesser normative status. … Hence, in certain areas, cautious reappraisal may very well be in order. There is, however, nothing in this process to undermine the halakhic order or to challenge its architects….Even if one were to grant that some halakhot were grounded in attitudes, at least partially ascribed to various influences, and if one were to acknowledge license to confront the attitudes, it hardly follows that the halakhot in question can be dismissed cavalierly.
We must trust that our sages have no intent to interpret Torah in line with a particular agenda or bias foreign to Torah. Even when they are innovative, or when their transmission of tradition is unclear, our sages are first and foremost attempting to interpret and uphold the Torah and its values. Sometimes their “factual perceptions are, relatively speaking, more historically conditioned,” and that means that “in certain areas, cautious reappraisal may very well be in order.” That doesn’t suffice to undermine the halachic order or dismiss halachot that may trouble us.
Like us, our sages were human, living in specific places and times. Unlike us, our sages have a unique stature, coupled with a Divine mandate to establish Halacha.
When he describes our sages’ halachic role, Ramban explains how this mandate works:
רמב”ן דברים יז:יא
וענינו אפילו תחשוב בלבך שהם טועים והדבר פשוט בעיניך כאשר אתה יודע בין ימינך לשמאלך, תעשה כמצותם…כי על הדעת שלהם הוא נותן לנו התורה, אפילו יהיה בעיניך כמחליף הימין בשמאל, וכל שכן שיש לך לחשוב שהם אומרים על ימין שהוא ימין, כי רוח השם על משרתי מקדשו ולא יעזוב את חסידיו, לעולם נשמרו מן הטעות ומן המכשול.
Ramban on the Torah, Devarim 17:11
Even if you think in your heart that they [the sages of the Sanhedrin] are in error, and the matter is as clear to you as knowing your right hand from your left, do as they command… For according to their knowledge does He give us the Torah, even if it should be in your eyes as one who switches left for right. How much more so that you should think that they call right what is right, for the spirit of God is on the servants of His sanctuary and He does not abandon his followers. They are ever protected from mistake and from stumbling block.
Ramban anticipates that a person might sometimes think the Sanhedrin’s halachic rulings are mistaken, but he assures us that we should assume that their right is right, and not only because God has given them authority. Why? “The spirit of God” guides them. The idea is that God watches over Halacha. Indeed, our greatest halachic authorities often distinguish themselves by helping us see how the spirit of God has guided halachic discussion.
Not all halachic positions become accepted as Halacha. When a halachic ruling that is considered authoritative seems difficult to us, we should humbly trust that, over time, we will come to recognize the Divine in the halacha, and that when “cautious reappraisal may very well be in order,” the authorities of our generation will undertake it as Halacha allows.
Those who subscribe to more hierarchical readings of Bereishit still leave room for other interpretations. Rashba, who falls into this camp, acknowledges that the deeper truth of Creation goes beyond what we can access from the Torah’s description and midrashic interpretations of it.3
Even if men have hierarchical advantages over women, that does not necessarily mean that men are fundamentally superior to women or nor does it give men license to treat women as inferiors. In the twelfth century, Ra’avad of Posquieres writes:
בעלי הנפש הקדמת הראב”ד
‘עזר’, שתהיה משמשתו בכל צרכיו. ‘כנגדו’, שתהיה עומדת אצלו תמיד על כן בראה הבורא מגוף האדם. ועל כן אמר האדם בראותו אותה וכאשר ידע כי ממנו נלקחה, על כן יעזוב איש את אביו ואת אמו ודבק באשתו (שם כד), כלומר ראויה זו שתעמוד אצלי תמיד ואני אצלה והיינו לבשר אחד. ועל כן ראוי האדם לאהוב את אשתו כנפשו ולכבדה ולרחם עליה ולשמרה כאשר ישמור אחד מאבריו. וכן היא חייבת לעבדו ולכבדו ולאהוב אותו כנפשה כי ממנו נלקחה.
Ra'avad, Ba'alei Ha-nefesh Introduction
“Helpmate,” that she will serve him in all his needs. “Corresponding to him,” that she will stand with him always; therefore, the Creator created her from Adam’s body. Therefore Adam said when he saw her and when he knew that she was taken from him, “Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and cleaves to his wife,” meaning, this one is fitting to stand with me always and I with her and we will be ‘as one flesh.’ Therefore it is fitting for a man to love his wife like himself and to honor her and have mercy on her and protect her as he would protect one of his own limbs. And so she must serve him and honor him and love him like herself, for she was taken from him.
According to Ra’avad, hierarchy between men and women is inherent in creation. However, hierarchy can be functional, a potential method for a husband and wife to live in partnership. Even within that hierarchy, they should regard each other as parts of one whole, and relate to each other with love and respect.
A Kabbalistic View
What could be the purpose of gender hierarchy?
An ambiguous phrase in the Torah’s description of the korban musaf of Rosh Chodesh stimulates a surprising discussion of it:4
במדבר כח:טו
וּשְׂעִיר עִזִּים אֶחָד לְחַטָּאת לַיקֹוָק עַל עֹלַת הַתָּמִיד יֵעָשֶׂה וְנִסְכּוֹ:
Bemidbar 28:15
And a single male goat for a sin offering for God, in addition to the daily burnt offering, shall be done and its libation.
On Rosh Chodesh, we are to offer “a sin offering for God.” One way to read that phrase is that we bring a monthly offering in response to a sin God has committed! What does this mean? Can God sin?
A Talmudic story explains:
חולין ס:
רבי שמעון בן פזי רמי, כתיב: ‘ויעש אלהים את שני המאורות הגדולים’ וכתיב: ‘את המאור הגדול ואת המאור הקטן’! אמרה ירח לפני הקדוש ברוך הוא: רבש”ע, אפשר לשני מלכים שישתמשו בכתר אחד? אמר לה: לכי ומעטי את עצמך! אמרה לפניו: רבש”ע, הואיל ואמרתי לפניך דבר הגון, אמעיט את עצמי? אמר לה: לכי ומשול ביום ובלילה. אמרה ליה: מאי רבותיה? דשרגא בטיהרא מאי אהני? אמר לה: זיל, לימנו בך ישראל ימים ושנים. אמרה ליה: יומא נמי, אי אפשר דלא מנו ביה תקופותא, דכתיב ‘והיו לאותות ולמועדים ולימים ושנים’. זיל. ליקרו צדיקי בשמיך: יעקב הקטן שמואל הקטן דוד… הקטן. חזייה דלא קא מיתבא דעתה. אמר הקדוש ברוך הוא: הביאו כפרה עלי שמיעטתי את הירח. והיינו דאמר ר”ש בן לקיש: מה נשתנה שעיר של ראש חדש שנאמר בו ‘לה”? אמר הקדוש ברוך הוא: שעיר זה יהא כפרה על שמיעטתי את הירח.
Chullin 60b
Rabbi Shimon ben Pazi cast [two verses against each other]. It is written “And God made the two great lights” and it is written “The great light and the small light”! The moon said before the Holy One Blessed Be He: Master of the World, can two kings share a single crown?
He said to her: Go diminish yourself!
She said before him: Master of the world, Because I said before you a proper thing, shall I diminish myself?
He said to her: Go and rule in the day and in the night.
She said to him: What is the gain in it? For a candle in the bright daylight, what benefit does it give?
He said to her: Go, that Israel will count days and years through you.
She said to him: Days too? It is impossible that they not count through him [the sun] the seasons, as it is written “and they will be for signs and for festivals and days and years”.
[He said to her:] Go, let the righteous be called by your name: Yaakov the small, Shemuel the small, David…the small.He saw that her mind was unsettled. Said the Holy One Blessed Be He: Bring an atonement for Me, that I diminished the moon. And that is what Rav Shimon ben Lakish said: How is the goat of Rosh Chodesh different, that “for God” is said regarding it? The Holy One Blessed Be He said: This goat will be an atonement for my diminishing the moon.
In this midrash, the moon complains at creation about co-dominance with the sun. God responds by ordering the moon to diminish herself. The moon has trouble accepting her punishment, so God establishes the lunar calendar and says the righteous will be likened to the moon. The moon, however, remains unsettled. Finally, God calls for a sin-offering at each new moon to atone for making her small.
“Can two kings share a single crown?” God has complete authority, and God is One. This story asks if two lesser beings can ever coexist on fully equal terms. Division of labor, as between night and day, fails to satisfy or to undo diminishment, and the last line offers us a mixed message: God seeks atonement, yet does not reverse the decision to diminish the moon. While it is regrettable, hierarchy might be inevitable.
The story repeatedly refers to the moon as a she.5 Picking up on this, the Zohar applies the story to the status of wives in marriage:
זוהר חדש א בראשית כד:
ר’ יוסי ב”ר שמעון בן לקוניא אתא למחמי לרבי אלעזר ב”ר שמעון חתניה. נפקא ברתיה ושקלא ידוהי לנשקא אמר לה לכי ומעטי את עצמך מקמי בעליך…..
Zohar Chadash I, Bereishit 24b (572)
Rabbi Yose son of Rabbi Shimon son of Lakonya came to show Rabbi Elazar son of Rabbi Shimon his son-in-law. His daughter came out, and he took her hands to kiss her. He said to her, “Go diminish yourself before your husband…”
On this reading, God’s rebuke of the moon becomes a father’s injunction to his daughter. Rabbi Yose says that “before [her] husband,” a woman should diminish herself. The claim seems to be that men and women could not share the same status and expect marriage to function. Not all men and women are married, but this claim might still be relevant as a comment on the functioning of society.
According to this interpretation of the moon narrative, gender inequality is built into the world, perhaps for good reason, but remains problematic. It leads to grievances that call for atonement.
If there is hierarchy, is it eternal?
No.6 Yeshayahu prophesies that at the end of days, the moon’s light will be restored:
ישעיהו ל:כו
והיה אור הלבנה כאור החמה…
Yeshayahu 30:26
And the light of the moon will be like the light of the sun…
Men often seem to have preferential status, in and out of Judaism. This prophecy may mean that someday men’s advantage will end.
Rav Chayim Vital, student of the Ari, teaches that the ‘feminine’ aspects of the world were diminished along with the moon (which contains them), and that this will change:
רב חיים ויטל, עץ חיים, שער מיעוט הירח
ותכלית גידול שלה הוא ש…ישתמשו ב’ מלכים בכתר א’ שהוא מה שקטרגה הירח כנודע.
Rav Chayim Vital, Etz Chayim, Sha'ar Mi'ut Ha-Yarei'ach
The purpose of her [the feminine’s] development is that…two kings [masculine and feminine] will share one crown, which is what the moon [first] argued about, as is known…
Gender hierarchy may be but one example of a larger hierarchy between masculine and feminine aspects of the world bound to change as we approach redemption.
Collaboration
What is an alternative view to hierarchy?
In contrast to what we’ve seen so far, some notable later commentators have taken pains to show that gender distinction is not necessarily hierarchical. For example, Rav Samson Raphael Hirsch argues that “ezer ke-negdo” refers to collaboration, not hierarchy:
Rav S. R. Hirsch, Commentary to Bereishit 2:18
The task is too great for one, and there is a need to split it into two. For this reason the woman was added to the man, in order that [together] they will fill completely the purpose of the human being.… And “a helpmate corresponding to him” does not express subjugation, but rather full equality and equal independence. The woman is “corresponding to him” at the side of the man, comparable to him…
On this reading, a female helpmate is not a man’s inferior, but a collaborator alongside him. Perhaps hierarchy can be useful for structuring society, but hierarchy between the genders is not an absolute mandate.7 Man and woman’s first creation is shared, as a joint human; separation is secondary.8
Rav Soloveitchik puts this in existential terms.9
Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik, 'Adam and Eve,' Family Redeemed
Had Adam needed a partner for practical reasons alone – to lighten his economic burden, to enable him to procreate, or to allow him a satisfactory sexual life – there would have been no necessity for the creation of Eve… What he needed was not a practical partnership but an ontological community where his lonely existence could find completeness and legitimacy.
The partnership of man and woman can go beyond the practical: Man and woman may answer each other’s need for community.
If we follow Rav Hirsch and Rav Soloveitchik, we can learn from creation that women and men collaborate, but hierarchy is not an essential part of their relationship.
On this view, we are all, from creation, first and foremost human beings, not men or women.
Where do halachic differences fit in to this discussion?
As Rav Moshe Feinstein writes, the genders have equal sanctity, with implications for Halacha:
אגרות משה או”ח חלק ד:מט
צריך לדעת כי אין זה בשביל שנשים פחותות במדרגת הקדושה מאנשים דלענין הקדושה שוות לאנשים לענין שייכות החיוב במצות שרק מצד הקדושה דאיכא בישראל … וגם לנשים נאמרו כל הקראי דקדושה
Rav Moshe Feinstein, Igerot Moshe, OC IV:49
It is necessary to know that this [halachic distinction] is not because women are at a lower level of sanctity than men. For with respect to sanctity, they are equal to men, with respect to the relevance of the obligation in mitzvot that derives only from the sanctity that inheres in Israel … and all the verses referring to sanctity were said also for women….
Rav Moshe teaches us that there are some practical halachic differences between women and men, but they come second to our shared sanctity as children of Israel.10
What can we do with our questions about women and mitzvot?
When our sages discuss the genders or when Halacha distinguishes between them, it can sometimes ring unconvincing or discordant to the modern ear.
What can we do about that? Seven things:
I. Ask Honestly We should honestly acknowledge these issues when they arise. We can say that something is challenging for us to hear or to identify with, without disparaging its source or undermining its validity.
II. Look Deeper We should explore them thoroughly and with an open mind, in faith that Halacha can stand up to scrutiny. Careful study can help us find interpretations that bring us closer to our sages’ perspectives or reach conclusions about how to think about these issues.
Too often, ignorance amplifies difficulties or even creates them. Knowledge can help us hone in on the real issues we need to address, and develop perspective on them. Many seemingly modern questions have actually been raised and addressed in the past, often in surprising ways.
III. Challenge Ourselves At the same time, we should recognize that we bring our own biases, conscious and unconscious, to our learning. Ways of thinking shift from generation to generation. Our perspective on gender and definitions of bias inevitably reflect the time we live in. Serious learning often pushes us to reconsider our initial assumptions or to pursue new trains of thought. Keeping that in mind can help our study maintain a respectful tone.
IV. Respect our Sages It is also important to remember that we lack the tradition and erudition of our sages. The earlier and more authoritative the source, the greater the humility with which we should approach it.
V. Classify the Discussion We should keep in mind that Jewish tradition is multi-vocal, so there is some freedom to prefer certain strands of thought in homiletics or theology to others. There is less freedom in Halacha, where we are often bound by precedent and where authority is more decisive, but rejected halachic opinions are not authoritative.
VI. Turn to Authorities Once we know a topic well, we can communicate effectively with halachic authorities. Study gives us a deeper understanding of what they say, and a greater ability to express our thoughts to them in halachic terms.
VII. Persist What if learning and discussion fail to resolve our questions or leave us with new ones? Sometimes, we have to live with tough questions because we are committed to Halacha. However, “She’elat chacham chatzi teshuva.” “The question of a wise person is [itself] half[way to] an answer.” If we persist, continuing to learn and discuss the issues, we can actively help new answers emerge.
How does this work in practice? Let’s take women’s learning Torah as an example.
In Learning Torah II, we saw Rabbi Eliezer’s statement that “Whoever teaches his daughter Torah is akin to teaching her nonsense.” How could Torah possibly lead someone astray? Why should this apply to women?
On Deracheha:
(I) We openly asked the question of why Rabbi Eliezer says this, acknowledging that it can be hard to fathom. (II) Further exploration of Rabbi Eliezer’s statement led us to suggest that it is more a reflection of his rigid and zealous stance on Torah transmission than of a particular attitude toward women. (III) We came to this idea by taking modern attitudes about women seriously as we explored our question, without assuming that they are infallible or superior to Rabbi Eliezer’s. (IV) We approached Rabbi Eliezer with respect and humility without denying the challenge his statement poses.
(V) In exploring the halacha of women’s learning Torah, one of the central points of discussion became whether Rabbi Eliezer’s statement is a binding halachic prohibition. By the end of Learning Torah IV, describing current halachic rulings and their connection to the past, we saw much evidence of God’s spirit guiding Halacha and (VI) were in position to ask any remaining questions from a point of appreciation and understanding. (VII) As part of our commitment to Halacha, we continue to ask and explore unresolved questions.
Further Reading
- Henkin, Rav Yehuda. Equality Lost. Jerusalem: Urim Publications, 1999.
- Heshelis, Devorah. The Moon’s Lost Light. Southfield: Targum Press, 2006.
- Schneider, Sarah. Kabbalistic Writings on the Nature of Masculine and Feminine. Northvale: Jason Aronson, 2001.
- Soloveitchik, Rabbi Joseph B. “Adam and Eve.” In Family Redeemed: Essays on Family Relationships. Edited by David Shatz and Joel B. Wolowelsky. Jersey City: KTAV, 2000, 3-30.
Notes
Akeidat Yitzchak Bereishit Section 9:73
Through these two names [for woman] is explained that a woman has two purposes. The first is what the name Isha [woman] teaches, ‘for from Ish [man] was this one taken,’ and like him [a man] she can understand matters of reason and prosper in matters of loving-kindness, as did our foremothers, some righteous women, and female prophets…The second is the matter of childbearing and her being the vessel for it and imprinted for childbirth and raising children, as the name Chava[Eve] teaches.
2. See, for example, Radak and Abarbanel on this verse, and Rashba Responsa I:60, For a survey, see Avraham Grossman, Ve-hu Yimshol Bach (Jerusalem: Merkaz Zalman Shazar, 2010).
Rashba, Responsa 1:60
Know that the words of the verses and the words of the homiletics [are by] way of hints and physical images to depict the matters in the souls.
4. This section draws on the innovative discussions of gender and hierarchy in Judaism, drawing heavily from kabbala, in Devorah Heshelis, The Moon’s Lost Light (Southfield: Targum Press, 2006) and Sarah Schneider, Kabbalistic Writings on the Nature of Masculine and Feminine (Northvale: Jason Aronson, 2001).
5. There are various ways to interpret this passage allegorically. For example, we can understand the moon and its diminution as representing the Jewish people, small in number comparison to non-Jews, but dear to God in ways that will be more evident in the world to come (Bereishit Rabba 6:3).
For our purposes, we will focus on the element of gender.
6. See note 4 above for two modern female thinkers who have developed ideas along these lines.
7. The Talmud understands Chava’s curse in Bereishit 3:16, “Ve-hu yimshol bach,” “And he will rule over you,” as referring specifically to the context of asking for marital relations, not to general hierarchy:
Rashi adopts this explanation in his commentary ad loc.
עירובין ק:
והוא ימשל בך מלמד שהאשה תובעת בלב והאיש תובע בפה.
Eiruvin 100b
“And he will rule over you” – this teaches that a woman asks [for relations] non-verbally and a man asks verbally.
Rav S. R. Hirsch, Commentary to Bereishit 2:22
Man, as it were, was divided, and the one part formed into Woman … built out, arranged as Woman. So that what was previously one creature was now two, and thereby the complete equality of women forever attested.
9. Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik, “Adam and Eve” in Family Redeemed: Essays on Family Relationships, ed. David Shatz and Joel B. Wolowelsky (Jersey City: KTAV, 2000), 17. See also:
'Partnerships Fulfilled and Frayed' in Abraham's Journey, ed. David Shatz, Joel B. Wolowelsky, and Reuven Ziegler (Brooklyn: KTAV, 2008), 114-116:
Rather, Sarah in her own right was a major figure, as important as Abraham…. Abraham would not have succeeded without Sarah’s cooperation…. There was an existential interdependence between Abraham and Sarah. In a word, at creation man and woman together, and only together, achieved human dignity, imago Dei.
10. See also:
Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik, 'Adam and Eve,' Family Redeemed, p. 71
There is no doubt that in the eyes of the Halakhah man and woman enjoy an equal status and have the same worth as far as their humanitas is concerned. Both were created in the image of God, both joined the covenantal community at Sinai, both are committed to our metahistorical destiny, both crave and search for God, and with both He engages in a dialogue…
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Creation
בראשית א:כז
וַיִּבְרָא אֱלֹהִים אֶת הָאָדָם בְּצַלְמוֹ בְּצֶלֶם אֱלֹהִים בָּרָא אֹתוֹ זָכָר וּנְקֵבָה בָּרָא אֹתָם:
Bereishit 1:27
And God created man in His image, in the image of God He created him, male and female He created them.
בראשית ב:יח
וַיֹּאמֶר יְקֹוָק אֱלֹקים לֹא טוֹב הֱיוֹת הָאָדָם לְבַדּוֹ אֶעֱשֶׂה לּוֹ עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֹ:
Bereishit 2:18
And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for man to be alone, I will make him a helpmate corresponding to him.’
ברכות סא.
דאמר ר’ ירמיה בן אלעזר דו פרצופין ברא הקב”ה באדם הראשון
Berachot 61a
R. Yirmiya son of Elazar said: The Holy One, Blessed Be He, created two faces on the first man [Adam].
עקידת יצחק בראשית שער ח
שתהיה לו חברה נאותה ומשותפת לו כפי צרכו ולזה אעשה לו העזר הראוי והנאות לו שהוא עזר כנגדו כלומר כנגד צורכו ושוה לו
Akeidat Yitzchak, Bereishit 8 (1:27)
That she [woman] will be for him [man] a suitable companion and partner, in accordance with his needs. For this purpose, I [God] will make him [man] the helpmate that is fitting and suitable for him, which is a “helpmate corresponding to him.” That is to say, corresponding to his needs and equal to him.
Hierarchy
רמב”ן דברים יז:יא
וענינו אפילו תחשוב בלבך שהם טועים והדבר פשוט בעיניך כאשר אתה יודע בין ימינך לשמאלך, תעשה כמצותם…כי על הדעת שלהם הוא נותן לנו התורה, אפילו יהיה בעיניך כמחליף הימין בשמאל, וכל שכן שיש לך לחשוב שהם אומרים על ימין שהוא ימין, כי רוח השם על משרתי מקדשו ולא יעזוב את חסידיו, לעולם נשמרו מן הטעות ומן המכשול.
Ramban on the Torah, Devarim 17:11
Even if you think in your heart that they [the sages of the Sanhedrin] are in error, and the matter is as clear to you as knowing your right hand from your left, do as they command… For according to their knowledge does He give us the Torah, even if it should be in your eyes as one who switches left for right. How much more so that you should think that they call right what is right, for the spirit of God is on the servants of His sanctuary and He does not abandon his followers. They are ever protected from mistake and from stumbling block.
בעלי הנפש הקדמת הראב”ד
‘עזר’, שתהיה משמשתו בכל צרכיו. ‘כנגדו’, שתהיה עומדת אצלו תמיד על כן בראה הבורא מגוף האדם. ועל כן אמר האדם בראותו אותה וכאשר ידע כי ממנו נלקחה, על כן יעזוב איש את אביו ואת אמו ודבק באשתו (שם כד), כלומר ראויה זו שתעמוד אצלי תמיד ואני אצלה והיינו לבשר אחד. ועל כן ראוי האדם לאהוב את אשתו כנפשו ולכבדה ולרחם עליה ולשמרה כאשר ישמור אחד מאבריו. וכן היא חייבת לעבדו ולכבדו ולאהוב אותו כנפשה כי ממנו נלקחה.
Ra'avad, Ba'alei Ha-nefesh Introduction
“Helpmate,” that she will serve him in all his needs. “Corresponding to him,” that she will stand with him always; therefore, the Creator created her from Adam’s body. Therefore Adam said when he saw her and when he knew that she was taken from him, “Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and cleaves to his wife,” meaning, this one is fitting to stand with me always and I with her and we will be ‘as one flesh.’ Therefore it is fitting for a man to love his wife like himself and to honor her and have mercy on her and protect her as he would protect one of his own limbs. And so she must serve him and honor him and love him like herself, for she was taken from him.
A Kabbalistic View
במדבר כח:טו
וּשְׂעִיר עִזִּים אֶחָד לְחַטָּאת לַיקֹוָק עַל עֹלַת הַתָּמִיד יֵעָשֶׂה וְנִסְכּוֹ:
Bemidbar 28:15
And a single male goat for a sin offering for God, in addition to the daily burnt offering, shall be done and its libation.
חולין ס:
רבי שמעון בן פזי רמי, כתיב: ‘ויעש אלהים את שני המאורות הגדולים’ וכתיב: ‘את המאור הגדול ואת המאור הקטן’! אמרה ירח לפני הקדוש ברוך הוא: רבש”ע, אפשר לשני מלכים שישתמשו בכתר אחד? אמר לה: לכי ומעטי את עצמך! אמרה לפניו: רבש”ע, הואיל ואמרתי לפניך דבר הגון, אמעיט את עצמי? אמר לה: לכי ומשול ביום ובלילה. אמרה ליה: מאי רבותיה? דשרגא בטיהרא מאי אהני? אמר לה: זיל, לימנו בך ישראל ימים ושנים. אמרה ליה: יומא נמי, אי אפשר דלא מנו ביה תקופותא, דכתיב ‘והיו לאותות ולמועדים ולימים ושנים’. זיל. ליקרו צדיקי בשמיך: יעקב הקטן שמואל הקטן דוד… הקטן. חזייה דלא קא מיתבא דעתה. אמר הקדוש ברוך הוא: הביאו כפרה עלי שמיעטתי את הירח. והיינו דאמר ר”ש בן לקיש: מה נשתנה שעיר של ראש חדש שנאמר בו ‘לה”? אמר הקדוש ברוך הוא: שעיר זה יהא כפרה על שמיעטתי את הירח.
Chullin 60b
Rabbi Shimon ben Pazi cast [two verses against each other]. It is written “And God made the two great lights” and it is written “The great light and the small light”! The moon said before the Holy One Blessed Be He: Master of the World, can two kings share a single crown?
He said to her: Go diminish yourself!
She said before him: Master of the world, Because I said before you a proper thing, shall I diminish myself?
He said to her: Go and rule in the day and in the night.
She said to him: What is the gain in it? For a candle in the bright daylight, what benefit does it give?
He said to her: Go, that Israel will count days and years through you.
She said to him: Days too? It is impossible that they not count through him [the sun] the seasons, as it is written “and they will be for signs and for festivals and days and years”.
[He said to her:] Go, let the righteous be called by your name: Yaakov the small, Shemuel the small, David…the small.He saw that her mind was unsettled. Said the Holy One Blessed Be He: Bring an atonement for Me, that I diminished the moon. And that is what Rav Shimon ben Lakish said: How is the goat of Rosh Chodesh different, that “for God” is said regarding it? The Holy One Blessed Be He said: This goat will be an atonement for my diminishing the moon.
זוהר חדש א בראשית כד:
ר’ יוסי ב”ר שמעון בן לקוניא אתא למחמי לרבי אלעזר ב”ר שמעון חתניה. נפקא ברתיה ושקלא ידוהי לנשקא אמר לה לכי ומעטי את עצמך מקמי בעליך…..
Zohar Chadash I, Bereishit 24b (572)
Rabbi Yose son of Rabbi Shimon son of Lakonya came to show Rabbi Elazar son of Rabbi Shimon his son-in-law. His daughter came out, and he took her hands to kiss her. He said to her, “Go diminish yourself before your husband…”
ישעיהו ל:כו
והיה אור הלבנה כאור החמה…
Yeshayahu 30:26
And the light of the moon will be like the light of the sun…
רב חיים ויטל, עץ חיים, שער מיעוט הירח
ותכלית גידול שלה הוא ש…ישתמשו ב’ מלכים בכתר א’ שהוא מה שקטרגה הירח כנודע.
Rav Chayim Vital, Etz Chayim, Sha'ar Mi'ut Ha-Yarei'ach
The purpose of her [the feminine’s] development is that…two kings [masculine and feminine] will share one crown, which is what the moon [first] argued about, as is known…
Collaboration
Rav S. R. Hirsch, Commentary to Bereishit 2:18
The task is too great for one, and there is a need to split it into two. For this reason the woman was added to the man, in order that [together] they will fill completely the purpose of the human being.… And “a helpmate corresponding to him” does not express subjugation, but rather full equality and equal independence. The woman is “corresponding to him” at the side of the man, comparable to him…
Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik, 'Adam and Eve,' Family Redeemed
Had Adam needed a partner for practical reasons alone – to lighten his economic burden, to enable him to procreate, or to allow him a satisfactory sexual life – there would have been no necessity for the creation of Eve… What he needed was not a practical partnership but an ontological community where his lonely existence could find completeness and legitimacy.
אגרות משה או”ח חלק ד:מט
צריך לדעת כי אין זה בשביל שנשים פחותות במדרגת הקדושה מאנשים דלענין הקדושה שוות לאנשים לענין שייכות החיוב במצות שרק מצד הקדושה דאיכא בישראל … וגם לנשים נאמרו כל הקראי דקדושה
Rav Moshe Feinstein, Igerot Moshe, OC IV:49
It is necessary to know that this [halachic distinction] is not because women are at a lower level of sanctity than men. For with respect to sanctity, they are equal to men, with respect to the relevance of the obligation in mitzvot that derives only from the sanctity that inheres in Israel … and all the verses referring to sanctity were said also for women….
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Has gender bias affected Halacha?
Torah law transcends human judgment and knowledge.
Since our sages’ teachings represent a received tradition of Torah She-be’al Peh, transmitted orally from generation to generation, the Torah’s credibility on these laws effectively becomes theirs.
Sometimes, however, interpretations of Jewish law offered by our sages may not seem to match up with the plain meaning of the Torah. At other times, sages have viewpoints that are in dispute. And sometimes these interpretations or disputed viewpoints take a perspective on gender that may not sit well with us.
Most people of the ancient and medieval worlds regarded women as men’s inferiors. Should we be concerned that gender bias has affected Halachic rulings from those times?
Rav Aharon Lichtenstein addresses the question of potential biases, conscious and unconscious, in his essay, “The Human and Social Factor in Halakha.”
Rav Aharon Lichtenstein, 'The Human and Social Factor in Halakha'
Certainly, they [our sages] had predilections and attitudes. However, our faith in them inspires us with confidence that the halakhic process was governed by halakhic factors, that halakhic decisions rested on halakhic grounds. We have neither the right nor the desire to suggest that their judgment was diverted or warped by extraneous factors….We follow in their footsteps not only out of deference to the formal and technical authority of the ultimate arbiter but because we recognize and are overawed by their greatness. … Hence, their attitudes, no mere intrusive graft but an organic outgrowth of the gavra rabba in them, can indeed provide the proper infrastructure for certain halakhot. Hazal’s factual perceptions are, relatively speaking, more historically conditioned. Their reading of human nature, in its permanent metaphysical aspect, retains its full force; but observations of given sociological tendencies may be more relative and of lesser normative status. … Hence, in certain areas, cautious reappraisal may very well be in order. There is, however, nothing in this process to undermine the halakhic order or to challenge its architects….Even if one were to grant that some halakhot were grounded in attitudes, at least partially ascribed to various influences, and if one were to acknowledge license to confront the attitudes, it hardly follows that the halakhot in question can be dismissed cavalierly.
We must trust that our sages have no intent to interpret Torah in line with a particular agenda or bias foreign to Torah. Even when they are innovative, or when their transmission of tradition is unclear, our sages are first and foremost attempting to interpret and uphold the Torah and its values. Sometimes their “factual perceptions are, relatively speaking, more historically conditioned,” and that means that “in certain areas, cautious reappraisal may very well be in order.” That doesn’t suffice to undermine the halachic order or dismiss halachot that may trouble us.
Like us, our sages were human, living in specific places and times. Unlike us, our sages have a unique stature, coupled with a Divine mandate to establish Halacha.
When he describes our sages’ halachic role, Ramban explains how this mandate works:
רמב”ן דברים יז:יא
וענינו אפילו תחשוב בלבך שהם טועים והדבר פשוט בעיניך כאשר אתה יודע בין ימינך לשמאלך, תעשה כמצותם…כי על הדעת שלהם הוא נותן לנו התורה, אפילו יהיה בעיניך כמחליף הימין בשמאל, וכל שכן שיש לך לחשוב שהם אומרים על ימין שהוא ימין, כי רוח השם על משרתי מקדשו ולא יעזוב את חסידיו, לעולם נשמרו מן הטעות ומן המכשול.
Ramban on the Torah, Devarim 17:11
Even if you think in your heart that they [the sages of the Sanhedrin] are in error, and the matter is as clear to you as knowing your right hand from your left, do as they command… For according to their knowledge does He give us the Torah, even if it should be in your eyes as one who switches left for right. How much more so that you should think that they call right what is right, for the spirit of God is on the servants of His sanctuary and He does not abandon his followers. They are ever protected from mistake and from stumbling block.
Ramban anticipates that a person might sometimes think the Sanhedrin’s halachic rulings are mistaken, but he assures us that we should assume that their right is right, and not only because God has given them authority. Why? “The spirit of God” guides them. The idea is that God watches over Halacha. Indeed, our greatest halachic authorities often distinguish themselves by helping us see how the spirit of God has guided halachic discussion.
Not all halachic positions become accepted as Halacha. When a halachic ruling that is considered authoritative seems difficult to us, we should humbly trust that, over time, we will come to recognize the Divine in the halacha, and that when “cautious reappraisal may very well be in order,” the authorities of our generation will undertake it as Halacha allows.
What can we do with our questions about women and mitzvot?
When our sages discuss the genders or when Halacha distinguishes between them, it can sometimes ring unconvincing or discordant to the modern ear.
What can we do about that? Seven things:
I. Ask Honestly We should honestly acknowledge these issues when they arise. We can say that something is challenging for us to hear or to identify with, without disparaging its source or undermining its validity.
II. Look Deeper We should explore them thoroughly and with an open mind, in faith that Halacha can stand up to scrutiny. Careful study can help us find interpretations that bring us closer to our sages’ perspectives or reach conclusions about how to think about these issues.
Too often, ignorance amplifies difficulties or even creates them. Knowledge can help us hone in on the real issues we need to address, and develop perspective on them. Many seemingly modern questions have actually been raised and addressed in the past, often in surprising ways.
III. Challenge Ourselves At the same time, we should recognize that we bring our own biases, conscious and unconscious, to our learning. Ways of thinking shift from generation to generation. Our perspective on gender and definitions of bias inevitably reflect the time we live in. Serious learning often pushes us to reconsider our initial assumptions or to pursue new trains of thought. Keeping that in mind can help our study maintain a respectful tone.
IV. Respect our Sages It is also important to remember that we lack the tradition and erudition of our sages. The earlier and more authoritative the source, the greater the humility with which we should approach it.
V. Classify the Discussion We should keep in mind that Jewish tradition is multi-vocal, so there is some freedom to prefer certain strands of thought in homiletics or theology to others. There is less freedom in Halacha, where we are often bound by precedent and where authority is more decisive, but rejected halachic opinions are not authoritative.
VI. Turn to Authorities Once we know a topic well, we can communicate effectively with halachic authorities. Study gives us a deeper understanding of what they say, and a greater ability to express our thoughts to them in halachic terms.
VII. Persist What if learning and discussion fail to resolve our questions or leave us with new ones? Sometimes, we have to live with tough questions because we are committed to Halacha. However, “She’elat chacham chatzi teshuva.” “The question of a wise person is [itself] half[way to] an answer.” If we persist, continuing to learn and discuss the issues, we can actively help new answers emerge.
How does this work in practice? Let’s take women’s learning Torah as an example.
In Learning Torah II, we saw Rabbi Eliezer’s statement that “Whoever teaches his daughter Torah is akin to teaching her nonsense.” How could Torah possibly lead someone astray? Why should this apply to women?
On Deracheha:
(I) We openly asked the question of why Rabbi Eliezer says this, acknowledging that it can be hard to fathom. (II) Further exploration of Rabbi Eliezer’s statement led us to suggest that it is more a reflection of his rigid and zealous stance on Torah transmission than of a particular attitude toward women. (III) We came to this idea by taking modern attitudes about women seriously as we explored our question, without assuming that they are infallible or superior to Rabbi Eliezer’s. (IV) We approached Rabbi Eliezer with respect and humility without denying the challenge his statement poses.
(V) In exploring the halacha of women’s learning Torah, one of the central points of discussion became whether Rabbi Eliezer’s statement is a binding halachic prohibition. By the end of Learning Torah IV, describing current halachic rulings and their connection to the past, we saw much evidence of God’s spirit guiding Halacha and (VI) were in position to ask any remaining questions from a point of appreciation and understanding. (VII) As part of our commitment to Halacha, we continue to ask and explore unresolved questions.
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