Mikveh in a long-time relationship


I live in a long time-relationship, having small kids. As me and my partner progress in keeping the mitzvot, we wanted to start keeping the taharas mischpacha too. But my problem is – since we are not married (and we will not marry in a near future due to some personal issues we cannot change), I cannot go to the mikveh. The mikveh is there for a married woman only, it would be a hypocrisy to use it, e.g. in this case I feel the usage of the mikveh would somehow legitimise the unmarried relationship, which sure isn’t the true purpose of mikveh, so its wrong. We don’t have access to a “natural mikveh” as sea, lake etc. What should I do to do my best? I count the period and the clean days, but I feel miss the final ending of the niddah time, e.g. without the mikveh I am not even rendered tahorah.

Thank for your opinion.

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Asked on June 8, 2021 8:38 am
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Answered on June 8, 2021 8:42 am